Tips for you

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Don't try to be a super-parent
The reality of life with baby is different from the cosy family images in advertising.

Watch your finances
Cash-flow problems will only make day-to-day stress much worse. Only spend what you can afford.

Take regular me time
Even stepping into the garden for five minutes away from a crying but safe baby can make a difference.

Whinge when you want to
Don't hold back negative feelings inside where they'll just fester. Vent to your partner, best mate, mum, sister or support group and get it all off your chest.

Tackle depression
It's normal for new mums to feel weepy. Speak to your health visitor or meet up with a postnatal group (the National Childbirth Trust runs these - call 0870 444 8707) to get rid of these feelings and start feeling better.

Be a low maintenance mum
Important if you have to get out of the house first thing. Get your legs waxed to save time shaving them, dye your eye-lashes (no more mascara) and get a wash-and-go hair style.

Preserve your sense of humour
Try your best to laugh in the face of toddler-induced stress, even if it sounds like a high-pitched crazed giggle! Laughing stimulates feel-good hormones that cause your brain to release stress-reducing endorphins.

Work flexible hours
Your employer might be amenable to part-time work or a job-share.

Don't take it personally
Young children can be frustrating and exhausting but that's the way they are.

Focus on the positive
When he seems like an utter monster, think about the sweet smiles, the cute laughter, the funny artwork and all his attempts to please you.

Believe you're doing a great job
Don't compare yourself to other parents - there will always be someone who seems more competent than others.

Learn to relax
Train yourself to switch off or you won't feel the benefit of any time off from your baby. Visualisation and yoga are great methods of relaxation.

Create couple time together
Make time for you and your partner - get your mum to babysit and go out for dinner or a movie.

Get quality time with your baby or toddler
Set the alarm clock 15 minutes early so you can bring her into bed with you for an early morning cuddle.

Try to downscale your priorities
Unless you can afford a platoon of daily cleaners, forget about being a neat-freak and don't even try to keep the house spick and span while taking care of a baby.

Tell yourself things do get better with time
The older your baby gets, the easier it will be to care for him.

Set attainable goals
Tell yourself you're going to take a shower, sit your baby in his bouncy chair and get on with it.

Avoid rows
Quarrelling with your toddler is utterly pointless.